Yes or No?

Yes or no?  Is it wrong to say no to something in this hologram?  A Course In Miracles says, if you brother asks you to do something ridiculous, say yes because if you don't you are making it real. 

Ramtha on the other hand says, if it doesn't bring you joy, get rid of it. 

'Butterflies are Free to Fly' says,this is just a game, filled with every emotion imaginable and the ultimate goal is no self.

In order to say no to a request from a brother, I realize I have to have a story to back me up. Such as, I have to say no because...
I am working on eliminating stories from my life and every story seems to have a judgement connected to it, this one is no different. 

My present story seemed very obvious to me.It occurred two days ago.  The main character was (seemingly) avoiding an unpleasant life circumstance and using others to take care of the situation for him. One of those people indirectly was me. After much thought on the request to have me involved I made the choice to say no because, and it's here that the stories and the judgements crept in. They seemed quite logical at the time, and for once I was going to take care of myself and say no, without the usual accompanying guilt. After I said no, I felt really peaceful, or did I? It seemed that way at the time, but something was nagging at me. It was the information I had read in The Course In Miracles, give all to all.

After more contemplation today, I can see that if my Holy Spirit, who I have confirmed is in charge of my life, places a brother in front of me asking for help, then I must say yes. The gift I receive from saying yes is the opportunity to recognize the unpleasant feelings it brings up,and heal them through forgiveness. The only real feelings being love, joy and peace, everything else is an illusion.

 I know this to be true, the question is,can I trust my Holy Spirit enough to let go of controlling the outcome of anything? Can I say yes,when every cell of my being is crying out with thoughts such as,I don't want to because.  I shouldn't have to because. I will show him because. I know what's best for him because. To say yes when I want to say no is a huge leap for me but I think I am ready to give it a try. Who knows, maybe this is the biggest illusion of all. Lol

P.s. What about discernment you may ask. Well don't think it didn't come up in my contemplation. For now I will say no more about it. It has been thought through and I am ready to continue with my huge leap and see what happens. Will keep you updated!